BDSM punishment Ideas for When You are Together

This is a handy list of punishments that my Dom and I use when we are together. Remember to go over the list of punishment activities before any rule or scene to make sure that you agree on them. Just because it is a punishment does not mean that it is not consensual.

A quick word before the list – Punishments are not necessarily meant to be fun, although a lot of these are, to me at least. I cannot stress this enough. The idea of punishment should be something that is agreed upon in ADVANCE. A Dom should never just come up with a punishment out of the blue without first talking to his or her sub. This list is something that UR and I came up will long before we ever got into a situation where punishment might be required.

We also have the understanding that either of us can request a punishment after making it clear we are doing it for fun rather than as an office punishment (as I said I enjoy most of these so it isn’t unusual for one to come up in our scenes without there being an infraction.)

Also, we have clearly defined rules which we’ve worked out. The punishments are listed from mild to severe.

Punishment:

  1. Spanking, flogging, etc. depending on the infraction

Mild:

  1. Naked chores
  2. No underwear in public
  3. Wearing lingerie in public or lingerie showing in some non-obvious fashion
  4. Driving and having to masturbate you or masturbate myself at traffic lights etc
  5. Learn something I find boring

Moderate:

  1. Naked chores with collar/lead or bondage
  2. Holding something inside of me for a length of time
  3. Stand, sit, or kneel in a certain pose that you enjoy for a given period.
  4. Make me cum in my panties and wear them throughout dinner
  5. Clothing partially removed in car while we are driving possibly not a punishment
  6. Naked front of window clothed or unclothed for a time
  7. Serve you dinner in the nude or feed you in the nude
  8. Nipple clamps in public

Severe:

  1. Disallow speaking when in public or for a given length of time unless spoken to unless significant need exists (ie I need to speak with you about there being a problem or the house is on fire)
  2. Wearing toys in public
  3. Sleeping with a vibrator in or hands bound
  4. Writing a word or phrase on me to be worn for a given length of time or until it fades
  5. Ice between layers of clothing until it melts
  6. Cum in panties and give panties to you after dinner or event